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Dear Rosie & Sherry, For several years, I was involved in a serious relationship.Now recently, I have begun dating for marriage and found out that many guys do not want to date me because of my previous intimate experience.My problem is that I do not know how to stop punishing myself and move forward with the joy of having come to this point of clarity. Like you, most of these readers are upset with themselves and "punish" themselves for the choices they made -- choices that were completely acceptable among their contemporaries, and which were made at a time that they didn't have another perspective to guide them.Please don't forget that you've already shown remorse for the choices you made in the past.Growing up, I was mostly conservative, but unfortunately nobody educated me on the importance of saving myself for marriage.Recently I met a guy I really liked, and he told me he wouldn't date someone with experience because he treasured the concept of saving yourself for your spouse, which needless to say broke my heart until this very day.
One way to present this is to say, "You know that I adopted stricter standards of modesty when I was 20.
BT’s also often bring more worldly experience to the table, something that might be better appreciated by a fellow BT – or sometimes FFB’s are attracted to that (for better or for worse).