Dating sexually inexperienced
You worry that you need to sweep a woman off her feet, and that you aren’t aggressive enough.Again, you are judging yourself from the woman’s perspective rather than your own, and finding yourself failing before you begin. Some women will look at you as a loser if they learn that you are inexperienced.You want your dating partners to like you, obviously, but you don’t need to think badly about yourself if they don’t.Even if they reject you outright, who really cares?Will your partner be disappointed when they find out? Whether we like it or not, inexperience can come with a stigma.Anyone who's gone through middle school has heard the word "prude" thrown around as a taunt, and unfortunately, some partners may make judgments based on your lack of relationships or sexual encounters.You could go a long way towards solving your problem by 1) dating (internet dating is easiest), 2) working with a therapist on your anxiety, fear of rejection and tendency to view yourself through other’s eyes rather than your own.There is no substitute for practice, but having a supportive person to talk over fears with can help a lot.
If I go out with someone my own age, I am going to be light-years behind in experience. When you say that you are a nice guy, I wonder if what you mean is that you are a passive guy. I note that you’ve been on dates but have bailed out of the process after the second date, perhaps because you “fear intimacy” as it were (the second date being the beginning of the period when the formation of a relationship becomes a possibility).I have never had a girlfriend, or a relationship that has gone beyond two dates (usually my decision or something weird happens). I have never kissed a woman, or really put myself in a situation where I could kiss someone.