Of dating divorced
what with climbing in and out of the divorce dating pool for years.While I highly recommend dating divorced men -- dare I admit that I've done so on two continents?You need to date." There are plenty of things I need to do: I need to work. I need to do laundry and get groceries and walk my dog. I have four kids, a needy dog and a bazillion amazing friends. Before my divorce, I hadn't lived alone other than a couple months-long stretch when I was a flight attendant back in 1989.I could be out doing something every single night of the week if I wanted to. I'd lived with my parents, and then with roommates, and then with a boyfriend who became a husband.To this day, people still ask me, "Why aren't you dating? I have perfected the art of being alone, but not being lonely." or "You should find a man" or my favorite, "You know what you need? I feel as though this is one of the weird little parting gifts of divorce, one that took me a long time to discover and even longer to appreciate. Don't get me wrong: I don't spend all of my free time alone.But then I see friends who have gone through a virtual parade of boyfriends, watched them fall in and out of love or something that kinda/sorta feels like it. There's something to be said for their sheer determination to find someone, and I commend them for that.They've introduced their kids to some of them, brought them to parties and gatherings and then one day, they show up alone. I've comforted them when things go bad, when they realize that this wasn't Mr. I have to wonder, though, is that the best way to find your happily ever after, or is it simply a way to keep your dating muscles toned and in shape, to avoid atrophy?
I might meet him at one of my son's hockey games or while looking for a new phone at Best Buy. And of course, technically speaking I am not living alone right now, what with my four roommates -- five if you count the sweet shedding boy who shares my bed.